Always Remember, You Owe Your Parents Nothing
Despite all the Smoke and Mirrors that are made to be seen as reasons you should feel it be "grateful" that your parents brought you into this world or have you life here, it's important to recognize that while it might seem difficult in the moment to comprehend it, the truth is that even the parents who utter such words or other people in defense of your parents all, are just parroting these words and don't even literally believe in it themselves.
When they speak these words, they are trying to essentially gaslight you and also it serves as a barometric check to see how much of a manipulative hold they have on you based on how you choose to respond or even not respond at all.
But the fact is, parents know that they did not have you or bring you here for the consideration of "you" and "your needs".
Hell, how could they!? They took a gamble and had no idea who or what someone would turn out to be.
They clearly had you for their own selfish reasons and you can wipe away all these silly nostalgic notions about one "glorifying their ancestors" by keeping the bloodline alive or honoring them, because that is also just more Pro-Natalist talking points designed to keep the cycle going and also so that you will one day also make the mistake of hearing offspring.
Plus, they don't want to let the cat out of the bag that life is pretty disappointing and that it becomes more torturous to live, irrespective of how many great and positive experiences they had once enjoyed.
Being made to feel you owe your parents anything is also a means by where you lose sense of your own self in the process because you are made to believe that by virtue of them being a "parent" that they have entitlements to you, because they are bringing you into this prison and having done a favor for you even though what they really did was confine you to a life of suffering and a future funeral.
Just think about this for a moment... Imagine if the prerequisite of giving birth, when deciding upon it involved the fact that one would have to be responsible for having the child on the basis of suiting and working for the child's interest and gaining no benefit in return from it.
That would probably be a major deal breaker for a shit load of people, they would decide to just not have any children at all.
The narratives that also surround the notion of doing you a favor by giving you life (i.e. "Life is a gift!) also play a role in distracting you from what this place is all about and to perpetuate an illusion to keep you invested into this place and to also repeat the mistake by one day also having children yourself and to keep the cycle going.
Few Humans will ever sit back to think how much this life doesn't make sense along with the fact that Humans are indeed, Tropical Beings.
The whole "Nordic Fantasy" spread by folklore that the Nordic race was somehow evolutionarily superior to handle the cold, was a huge fat lie, and a Nordic Man is no more or less meant for cold weather than an African or Arab in Hot climates.
Our bodies lack fur and natural adaptive processes to manage cold like other animals do and you should be aware that our technologies and ability to create huts and start a fire or wear furs have actually been artificial adaptations to manage the cold.
And if you remember what I always said, all adaptations are weaknesses.
We are artificially living in cold climates that our bodies were never naturally suited to be in, and this is why for example illnesses, aging and other health issues such as lack of vitamin D are so much of a problem.
Honestly, you should laugh at anyone who believes they are tough or a warrior for handling the cold weather when cold does nothing but weaken someone and goes against our actual native way we are supposed to be living.
But the point in all this, is that our lives are very artificial and have largely been a byproduct built from human error and experimentation rather than truth or instinct.
Our instincts should tell us that there is something wrong with cold weather and being huddled in a house all day long and having to prepare the following autumn by chopping many cords of wood into quarters for sustaining warmth in the winter, with soot that only is harmful to your lungs and carcinogenic, even though it smells nice.
The point is that it doesn't make any sense.
Your parents would love to have you believe that they wanted all the ambitions they claim for you and in bringing you into this place, but it really is all just hormonal.
In actuality, they know they had you for self-fulfilling reasons, so you should never feel this inner compulsion like you owe them just because they are your parents.
In general, as I've said in the past I have a problem with the social construct of families because families feel artificial to me, and they also are unnecessary in an existence of immortality.
I see family through the lens of it existing as an error based on the error of mortality and the reincarnation process altogether.
Therefore, it seems weird to me to like an uncle or aunt or cousin are "such and such" but that they aren't friends, and how exactly does one act as an Uncle!?
If you think about these things deeply they just don't make any sense.
But what makes the least sense of all is feeling like you owe your parents a debt of gratitude because they brought you here.
What really shows the fragility of Humans overall is that animals rely on reproduction strictly from the source of instinct within.
Human beings rely on propaganda, although there is a reproductive urge, if the propaganda and religions did not exist which promote ideas of Humans being blessed or honoring their ancestors by having children, a lot less people would have children. Humans even by and large depend on a Manmade institution of marriage to sustain higher birth rates.
So it should disturb you that our species has this fragility in them and also the fact that Humans unlike any other primate or mammal has idealism behind the process of having children.
And the fact that Humans are born with lacking enough sufficient development upon delivery compared to most animals, since the Human template or container is too large to adequately develop inside the Human body.
Even though the process is similar with other animals or even some animals which lay eggs, the process of everything including development and raising of their offspring is much simpler and streamlined.
My parents were European immigrants that paid their taxes on Jan 2nd....and they didn't micromanage my life at all.
ReplyDeleteGood team. Good American citizens. Never doing stupid shit.
I just wish they gave me more insight into things...but how could they, coming from a totally different culture?
That's where my confusion came in...I was half American culture influenced...and half old school Euro...and the Euro in me was far superior and smart ..
Amerika is trash. And everything they taught me was self destructive slavery.
@Joey Aragon,
DeleteYes, correct, because these are exactly the type of "boundary" issues that do not get crossed because they are perpetually in awareness of their role as parents, even being good parents, because basically it ends up being like giving away their "trade secret" in a way.
For example, as far as my own parents went, I saw as they got much older especially towards the end how they basically revealed things about their life or this world and actually believe it or not, an implied "regret" in the sense that they knew this world was a bad place to bring children in when they really sat back and thought about their own life and dissatisfaction. Truth be told, the only generation of people I knew who were even more remarkably optimistic or not anywhere near as disgusted with the outlook of life when they became very ill, were my grandparents. But they lived in a completely different time and we are going back to the 1800's.
I think many people alive today completely underestimated how things have changed, and that even if you compare a short time period from now to today, say 1980 to 2026, that the world population has DOUBLED since then. That has HUGE implications.
If the world population did not double, I guarantee you that Italians would still be eating seafood dishes piled on with every sea fruit out there for like "pocket change", even at a restaurant, compared to today.
Now you want to go to an Italian restaurant in America, just to get 4 - 6 small pieces of shrimp over a pasta dish, you're expected to pay $30.00 or more.
It's not all that better in the seafood markets either, now 1LB of Scallops where I am averages $30 or more, and that 1LB is at least 1-2 meals at most. Before 2019, I was able to get Scallops 1LB for less than $6, and even 1LB of Shrimp around that price, now on average 1LB of good shrimp is $16-25.
This world is completely unimaginable now and astounding how much people are in denial of overpopulation and pretending that every new birth that these children are going to have "great lives".
>>>>In general, as I've said in the past I have a problem with the social construct of families because families feel artificial to me, and they also are unnecessary in an existence of immortality.
ReplyDeleteI have felt th exact same.Whenever i see a stranger..i think how is this relationship any different than i have towards my parents. It us really just a belief.
As a detour, it is interesting how loyalty was never on ones willingness but rather how much similarities you hold.
For example, loyalty towards your race is never asked from you but rather forced upon you from birth. Also, if i do something that goes against the collective interest of men, iam a traitor.
According to them, i should be loyal just because we share the same sexual organs.
At the end of the day, there is as much similarity between two humans as much as there is between a human and a rock. Both are just unique distribution of atoms.
I have problems with loyalty or atleast the idea of it. I can be loyal but the idea itself seems contradictory and baseless.
@Hi,
DeleteIt also seems to manifest more strangely as you get older especially once you are also an adult, but even more so as full adults especially after mid-life. Because when you are younger, say an Aunt or Uncle, they always saw you as a "little kid" in the family, but once you are both fully adults, it's almost as if they don't want to let go of that "idea", and so there are strange boundaries on what you do or don't do as a family, at least from the standpoint of it being socially engineered, and as a result, family gatherings are only on holidays, funerals and weddings.
And then somehow we're all supposed to act like we are "catching up" in life during these brief meetings even though we go most of our lives really not knowing much about what goes on in anyone's life.
It just doesn't make any sense. Not all families are this way, and I would say that Middle Eastern families tend to not be as problematic with it, but it is a huge issue for some races. The reason Middle Eastern Families is different is not a cultural reason, but a racial one in fact.
But I still cannot get over the flawed concept of family, because the thing is, by the end of the day, a Human Being is going to do or want what a Human being wants or does.
Loyalty "can" be a good a thing, and it is a virtue, but only when and where it has value and direction, because as some kind of loose formality, it can actually become an abomination.
In fact, I'd even argue that the "formal" type of loyalty that exists is what keeps the Human Species stagnant the way it is, where people are loyal to their employers or all the wrong people in their life that exist as a "setback", only because there is an idea foisted upon them that they need to be loyal no matter the circumstance.
Religions for thousands of years have also been very influential and making mankind become so sterilized in that sense too, and that has essentially led to where we are today where we're burdened with all these NPC's and that basically everyone thinks the same, and are only obsessed with survival, and that if you even have as much as a belief or worldview outside of the "pack", you are viewed with suspicion because potentially they see such views as volatile or outside of the framework of survival.
It's really pathetic, and actually very angering when you sit and simmer over it for hours like I have throughout my life.
>>>Religions for thousands of years have also been very influential and making mankind become so sterilized in that sense too, and that has essentially led to where we are today where we're burdened with all these NPC's and that basically everyone thinks the same, and are only obsessed with survival, and that if you even have as much as a belief or worldview outside of the "pack", you are viewed with suspicion because potentially they see such views as volatile or outside of the framework of survival.
DeleteCompletely agree man. I have always felt like a misfit almost my entire life.
>>>Religions for thousands of years have also been very influential and making mankind become so sterilized in that sense too, and that has essentially led to where we are today where we're burdened with all these NPC's and that basically everyone thinks the same, and are only obsessed with survival, and that if you even have as much as a belief or worldview outside of the "pack", you are viewed with suspicion because potentially they see such views as volatile or outside of the framework of survival.
DeleteCompletely agree man. I have always felt like a misfit almost my entire life.