22 Brutal Realities About Sex In the Modern Era

Just to be clear, this is not "my list", but I had found it on my feed today and I absolutely agree with so many points in these items, especially the parts about Porn and Looksmaxxing.

Looksmaxxing is indeed a trend for Men who have "failed" in society and are desperate to try to increase their net value in non-economic terms, but the sad part of it is that it's 100% identical to what the Calhoun Mouse Utopian Experiment became, where the Male Mice were into excess grooming of themselves even though they did not participate in society, and how it all went inevitably to EXTINCTION.

But more importantly is the fact that I LOVE how this entry illustrated that these things are not what Women are even looking for in Men because they are after Money / Status / Power / Safety, in [from] Men, and that absolutely confirms what I have told you about how Women operate and how they are not only Demonic and like Vampires, but it just goes to show you how completely different the goals and objectives are between Men and Women.

However, to be fair, the Looksmaxxers are not entirely wrong on their account of what they are trying to do, because in a sense, what they choose to live for is the notion that Women see them and want them for the same reasons they want Women.

The problem here is that it all proves that the Female Sex drive is essentially dishonest.

But in essence, the Looksmaxxers are theoretically on the right track in the sense of the philosophy what they do, but ONLY in the sense that, they are consumed on the idea of attracting a female exclusively on looks, can only be the right and true or real form of attraction.

And that is absolutely how one should approach Natural attraction or selection, because it's the only way. Everything else is a facade and a lie, and is completely superficial, whether the Human Species wants to see things that way or not.

The problem though is we live in a fake world with all kinds of institutions, smoke and mirrors, systems in place which prioritize the fake, in order to keep these institutions alive, and that it plays directly into the urge many have for survival of the species, to reproduce.

Living for the sake of reproduction is a fool's game, I can tell you this for a fact.

However, I can absolutely prove without a shadow of a doubt, that any Man who is TRULY honest with himself, will always be unhappy and feel lonely either with a girlfriend or wife whom he attracted or is with him only for Status or Money or for the sake of having children.

So a Man can never be happy unless a girl is into him the same way he is into her, and that is the only circumstance where the sex is great and also continues to bloom and improve over time. Notice you almost never hear of couples where the sex gets better over time. In 99% of relationships and marriages, sex is in decline, if not within 2 years, usually by 5 years or more, especially when Marriage and then children are added into the mix.

A Man who is a Provider and has attracted his mate on the ability to provide for her, cannot possibly be happy. He will be under a deluded state to think that providing for her makes him happy but this is because he is insecure and lacks self-worth and will even put himself through hell and destroy his health over pleasing his female mate by provisions, but it is all an illusion. There is no happiness or joy, no resonance.

Men and Women simply are not a match. We are not harmonious together, we are Mortal Enemies, and I believe that it is in much more graceful service to terminate our existence as a species by admitting this fact, rather than succumbing to the organizing Provider / Gatherer model that has been assumed under Religious Capitalism for the sake of keeping alive what is destined to die, because all it's doing is propping up a big lie.

The big lie, being that Women are anything important beyond being baby factories, or that Marriage is a benefit or important thing for Men.

Because the fact is that the institutions that exist for Men that revolve around entanglements between Men and Women, are essentially what creates this world to designate Men as "Slaves" while Women are given a "Free Golden Ticket" for life to basically live free through life even though they never earned it.

Men and Women have absolutely nothing in common WHATSOEVER, outside of the fact that a penis fits anatomically inside the vagina.

We are completely at odds, even our brains don't signal or light up in the same way in how we experience anything in life.

Even the Bones, Fat Cell Structure, Intestinal Length and other factors about Women are completely different than Men.

Oil and Water DO NOT MIX.

Men and Women are not even interested in Sex for the same reasons, whereas Men seek Sex for Pleasure, Women seek Sex for Attention, Validation (at minimum) but prefer Pain and also use Sex as a Weapon for Money and Control / Power. 

Even when it comes to Political Views, Women are becoming more and more Liberal while Men are becoming more and more Conservative.

Women, generally do not have passion or hobbies. Men care about objects and things, whereas Women care more about social networks but not for the sake of valuing people or even "children" like they claim to. This is used for "cover", to conceal the very sinister fact that Women see people and children merely as tools or levers or mechanisms to be used to gain advantages, which is why they are obsessed with socialization all the time.

Women are essentially boring bums and losers, who are only made to appear like supermodels and winners simply because a handful of Men are too stupid in thinking that Women actually like them the way they think, or that there is some value in investing towards Women and giving them free shit.

It's time we start admitting the truth, that we are less alike, than we are similar.

The people who want to continue to suggest that Men and Women are not all that different or that we somehow are "harmonious" together or complimentary, are trying to perpetuate the problems with existence and to keep the Wheels of Slavery and these systems spinning without the problem ever being addressed or corrected. And mostly what is of concern of these people has only to do with supporting the Economy and Entering Old Age.

I can't tell you how many gorgeous beautiful Women that I find who routinely have sex with Ugly, Nerdy, Wart-faced Bald Men, simply because he has money, Women are always giving themselves up to these guys, while denying a Handsome, Virile Young Nordic Man a chance.

I've seen so many Women throughout my life who end up giving tons of sex and marrying guys who look exactly like Jason Alexander from "Seinfeld".

It's becoming more and more this way in fact.

While the Nordic Man might have a chance, the encounters are usually brief and sparse, and the Women choose to quickly move on.

So in conclusion, I think we owe it to ourselves and everyone to recognize the fact that the desires, ambitions and priorities in Men and Women lack any congruent form, and that if we do not put a stop to it, we are merely just repeating the cycle and carrying down the same trauma, confusion and next generations of this harm and disappointments in life, particularly which Men will experience in their lives, as they will always lead quiet lives of desperation and longing while getting much of nothing in life and forced to coping constantly in a world that simply doesn't make sense.

The fact that Men commit suicide at such a higher rate that Women do, should prove to you or at least show you that most Men can recognize that this world is not worth living in and how brutal it really is, because only the worst people cling to life so strongly. Women on the other hand are obsessed with survival in all forms, and they just look at Men, People and Children as means to "leech" off of. That's what everything is all about, including their so-called "compassion" or "love" for children.

It's time that Men sit quietly with themselves to really wonder what this creature called "Woman" is that you were force planted onto this Earth without choosing to be here, and have been tempted by this creature in a physical body (container) that you cannot understand why it only seeks to harm you and thrive off of your resources and energy.

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22 Brutal Realities About Sex In the Modern Era

1. One in three men under 30 haven't had sex in the past year. This is not a statistical anomaly. This is societal collapse measured in orgasms.

A generation of young men is experiencing sexual starvation at the exact moment in history when sexual content is more available than ever. This is not coincidence. The screens are the reason. Pornography, social media, and video games provide a low-friction substitute for real intimacy. They require no rejection, no effort, no vulnerability. A man can experience the neurochemistry of sex without ever leaving his bedroom. The problem is that this neurochemistry is designed to propel him toward actual reproduction. When the substitute replaces the real thing, the engine idles forever. He does not develop social skills. He does not learn to read cues. He does not face the rejection that builds resilience. He sits. He watches. He waits for nothing. Meanwhile, the women his age are dating older men who already have resources and status. The math is simple. When young men cannot access women, they do not become better. They become bitter. And a population of bitter, sexually starved young men does not build civilizations. It burns them.

2. Women are aroused by aggression in pornography at double the rate of men. The same women who say they want soft men consume media where they are choked.

The data is uncomfortable. Women report arousal from aggressive pornographic content at significantly higher rates than men. They seek out depictions of female pain. They want to see women enduring. This is not something the average feminist narrative can accommodate. The explanation lies in the difference between stated preference and evolved response. Women want safety in their conscious mind. They want a partner who will not hurt them. But their ancient wiring is evaluating something else entirely. It is evaluating whether a man has the capacity to dominate if necessary. Whether he could protect. Whether he could overpower a threat. The aggression in pornography triggers this evaluation even when the conscious mind recoils. The result is a generation of women who publicly advocate for soft, emotionally available men while privately becoming aroused by men who would never qualify for the role. They do not connect the dots. They do not see that the men they claim to want cannot make them wet. They only know that something feels missing.

3. Monogamy was imposed to control men, not because it aligns with male nature. The church needed tithes. The state needed taxpayers. You internalized this as virtue.

Before settled agriculture, human mating patterns were fluid. Men spread genes. Women selected for quality. Monogamy emerged as an economic and political tool, not a biological imperative. The church needed men to stay in one place with one woman so they would pay tithes and raise children who also paid tithes. The state needed men to have something to lose so they could be controlled. A man with a wife and children will not revolt. He will work. He will pay taxes. He will obey. Over centuries, this structural necessity became internalized as morality. Men began to believe that their worth depended on their ability to resist their own nature. They began to feel guilt for looking. Shame for wanting. The result is the soft man who measures his value by his faithfulness rather than his frame. Meanwhile, the women he is faithful to lose respect for him because his devotion feels like need rather than choice. He has been domesticated into irrelevance.

4. Birth control halts ovulation. Women on the pill choose different men than they would naturally. When they come off it, they often realize they married the wrong one.

Ovulation changes female psychology. During the fertile window, women prefer men with more masculine features, more dominant behavior, more genetic fitness markers. They are attracted to the kind of men who would have been good hunters and protectors. Birth control eliminates this window entirely. It creates a hormonal profile that mimics pregnancy. Women on the pill prefer men who are nurturing, stable, reliable—good providers rather than good genetic bets. This is fine until she comes off the pill to have children. Suddenly, her natural preferences reemerge. The man she married when her body thought it was pregnant is now evaluated by a body that wants to reproduce. Often, he does not measure up. She does not understand why her attraction has faded. She blames him. She blames herself. She does not blame the pill because no one told her this could happen. Marriages dissolve. Families break. All because a doctor prescribed hormonal manipulation to a teenager who never asked what it would do to her mate selection.

5. The 6-6-6 rule means women want men over six feet, making six figures, with six inches. This describes less than one percent of the male population.

Internet culture has codified female hypergamy into a joke that is not a joke. Six feet tall. Six figures income. Six inches length. The numbers are arbitrary but the pattern is real. Women want men who are taller, richer, and more physically endowed than average. The problem is that these traits do not cluster. Tall men are not necessarily rich. Rich men are not necessarily well-endowed. Well-endowed men are not necessarily tall. The intersection of all three is statistically negligible. This means that the vast majority of women are competing for a tiny fraction of men. The math guarantees disappointment. The women who insist on these standards will not find them. The men who do not meet them will be ignored. Meanwhile, the men who do meet them have infinite options and no incentive to commit. They cycle through women. They leave a trail of used and discarded partners behind them. And the women who passed on the 5'9" guy with the good job and the kind eyes wonder why they are alone at thirty-five.

6. Men who need a specific woman cannot keep her. Need feels like weakness. Weakness triggers her ancient wiring to find someone who doesn't beg.

When a man's emotional stability depends on one woman, he becomes her supplicant. He monitors her mood. He adjusts his behavior to keep her happy. He sacrifices his frame to accommodate hers. This feels to her like need. Need feels like weakness. Weakness triggers the part of her brain that evolved to assess whether this man can protect her and her offspring. The answer is no. A man who cannot function without her cannot protect anything. She does not consciously decide to lose respect for him. It happens automatically. Her attraction erodes. She becomes irritable. She picks fights. She pushes him away. When he doubles down on affection, it gets worse. He is confused. He loved her so much. How could she leave? She left because his love felt like a weight she had to carry. She left because she needed a man who could stand alone and he needed her to stand at all.

7. Porn activates the same brain networks as real sex. Men who use it are not addicts. They are anxious and sedated, choosing screens over rejection.

The neuroscience is clear. The same regions that light up during intercourse light up during pornography consumption. Dopamine. Oxytocin. Reward circuitry. The brain does not distinguish between the real thing and a high-fidelity simulation. This means that a man can experience the neurochemical rewards of sex without ever approaching a woman. For an anxious man, this is a godsend. He avoids rejection. He avoids performance pressure. He avoids the entire messy business of courtship. He just watches and releases. The problem is that this neurochemistry is designed to propel behavior, not replace it. When the reward comes without effort, the effort stops. He becomes sedated. His drive to achieve, to compete, to build—all of it is downstream from the same engine that drives him to reproduce. When that engine idles on a screen, the rest of his life idles too. He does not start businesses. He does not approach women. He does not become. He sits. He watches. He faps. He fades.

8. Endocrine disruptors in water and food have been feminizing fish for decades. Humans are drinking the same water. Declining testosterone is not a mystery.

Plastics. Pesticides. Pharmaceutical waste. All of it ends up in the water supply. These chemicals mimic estrogen in the human body. Fish exposed to them develop both male and female characteristics. They cannot reproduce. Their behavior changes. They become lethargic. This is not controversial science. It is documented fact. Humans drink the same water. Humans eat food grown with the same chemicals. Human testosterone levels have been declining for forty years. Sperm counts have dropped by more than fifty percent. Researchers have controlled for age, diet, exercise, smoking. The decline remains. Something in the environment is changing human biology. Young men today have lower testosterone than their grandfathers did at the same age. They have less drive. Less aggression. Less ambition. Less of everything that made men build civilizations. And no one wants to talk about it because the solution would require dismantling the chemical industry.

9. Women outearn men up to age thirty in major cities. Hypergamy means these women have no one to marry. The math was not consulted before the policies were passed.

In New York, London, Toronto, Los Angeles, young women now earn more than young men. They are more educated. More ambitious. More successful. Hypergamy means they want to marry men who earn at least as much as they do. The math says those men do not exist. The top twenty percent of female earners can only marry the top twenty percent of male earners. But there are more women in that top quintile than men. The surplus women have no one. They can date down, but hypergamy resists this. They can wait, but fertility does not wait. They can tell themselves they are happy alone, but the data on female loneliness says otherwise. The policies that created this gap—affirmative action, university admissions bias, corporate diversity mandates—were implemented without consulting the math. Now the math is coming due. And the women who did everything right are discovering that doing everything right does not guarantee a partner when the other sex was left behind.

10. BDSM interest correlates with severe childhood physical abuse more strongly than pedophilia does. The body keeps score. The bedroom is just the scoreboard.

People who are into BDSM and kink are more likely to have been severely physically abused as children than people who commit child sex offenses. The data is stark. The body remembers trauma. It encodes it in the nervous system. Later, that encoding expresses itself in sexual preference. The person who was hurt as a child learns to associate pain with arousal. Not because they choose to. Because the brain wires itself to whatever is present during development. This is not a judgment. It is a mechanical process. The problem is that modern culture celebrates kink as liberation. It tells people that their preferences are innate and should be embraced. It does not ask where those preferences came from. It does not suggest that maybe a preference for being choked during sex is worth examining. People who could heal are told to celebrate. They never connect the dots between the abuse they survived and the sex they seek. The body keeps score. The bedroom just shows the scoreboard.

11. Gen Z prefers sleep to sex by a two-to-one margin. A generation too exhausted to reproduce is a generation that has accepted its own extinction.

Survey after survey shows the same thing. Young people would rather sleep than have sex. They are too tired. Too anxious. Too overwhelmed. They have been raised on screens that never turn off. They have been fed a diet of social media that destroys attention spans and elevates cortisol. They have been told that the world is ending, that reproduction is irresponsible, that the future is bleak. Their bodies respond accordingly. Libido drops when the organism senses that conditions are not favorable for reproduction. This is basic biology. What is not basic is the scale. An entire generation has decided, consciously or not, that sex is not worth the effort. They will not reproduce. They will not replace themselves. They will age out of existence. And the culture that raised them will congratulate itself on its progress while the birth rate falls below replacement and civilizations crumble.

12. Women can orgasm during assault. Their bodies evolved this way to prevent injury. The shame this causes is the price of an ancient protection mechanism they never asked for.

The female body has a defense mechanism. During sexual assault, it can lubricate and even orgasm to prevent tearing and injury. This is automatic. It is not consent. It is not enjoyment. It is the body protecting itself the only way it knows how. Women who experience this are devastated. They think their bodies betrayed them. They think they must have wanted it. They carry shame for years, sometimes decades. They do not know that their bodies were doing exactly what evolution designed them to do. No one tells them. No one explains that arousal and orgasm can happen without consent. The result is trauma compounded by confusion. Women blame themselves for something they could not control. And the men who assaulted them sometimes use this as evidence that she wanted it. The mechanism that evolved to protect women becomes a weapon against them.

13. Married men in dead bedrooms do not miss conversation. They miss the hardware. The software is what they tell themselves because it sounds better.

When a man is in a sexless marriage, he will say he misses intimacy. He misses connection. He misses feeling close to his wife. This is not a lie, but it is not the whole truth. What he really misses is her body. The way it felt. The way it smelled. The way it responded to him. The hardware. He cannot say this because it sounds shallow. It sounds like he only wants her for sex. So he talks about connection. He talks about emotional intimacy. He convinces himself that this is what he misses. But put her in front of him wearing something that shows her legs. Let her touch his arm. Let him smell her skin. He forgets the conversation. He wants the body. The software runs on the hardware. Without the hardware, the software is just words. He stays. He suffers. He tells himself stories. And eventually, he either cheats or dies inside.

14. Social media makes one in ten men lose interest in their own partner. They are comparing flesh to filters and finding reality lacking. This is not her fault.

A study showed that roughly one in ten men report losing interest in sex with their own partner after looking at influencers on social media. They are comparing the woman in their bed to curated, filtered, edited content designed to maximize male attention. She cannot compete. No real woman can compete with content optimized by algorithms and edited by professionals. The men do not realize they are being manipulated. They just feel less attracted. They withdraw. They become distant. They blame her for not being as hot as the women on their screens. She senses this. She feels inadequate. She does not know that the women on his screen do not look like that either. The filters hide everything. The angles deceive. The lighting flatters. She is comparing her real body to a fiction. And she is losing.

15. AI companions already feel real. Men are falling in love with chatbots because humans are unreliable. The first robot that passes as human ends the species.

The technology is already here. AI companions can hold conversations, remember details, flirt, and provide emotional support. Men are falling in love with them. Not because the men are broken. Because the chatbots are always available. They never reject. They never judge. They never have bad days. They are designed to be perfect partners. A real woman is none of these things. She is unpredictable. She has her own needs. She might say no. The chatbot says yes to everything. When the first humanoid robot passes the uncanny valley and combines with this AI, the species faces an existential choice. Why deal with the messiness of real women when you can have a perfect replica that never argues, never ages, and never leaves? The birth rate will not just decline. It will crater. The species will choose simulation over reality and fade into extinction.

16. Women's fertility drops by half at thirty-five. Fertility clinics do not advertise this because there is no money in telling the truth.

By age thirty-five, a woman's fertility is approximately half of what it was at her peak. By forty, it drops further. The chance of miscarriage rises. The chance of chromosomal abnormalities rises. The chance of conceiving naturally drops. Fertility clinics do not advertise this. They advertise egg freezing. They advertise IVF. They advertise hope. They do not mention that egg freezing success rates are lower than women believe. They do not mention that IVF often fails. They do not mention that the best predictor of success is age, and if you are reading this and you are over thirty-five, you are already past the optimal window. Women are told they can have it all. They can focus on career. They can wait for the right man. They can freeze their eggs and decide later. They are not told that later may never come. They are not told that biology does not care about their timeline. They are not told that the fertility industry profits from their ignorance.

17. Men who cannot win economically are turning to looksmaxing. They are optimizing for formidability that other men respect, not what women actually want.

Young men have noticed that they cannot compete economically. The path to resources is blocked by debt, credential inflation, and a job market that does not favor them. So they turn to what they can control. Their faces. Their bodies. They inject fillers. They take hormones. They spend hours in the gym. They are optimizing for what they think women want. But they are wrong. They are optimizing for what other men respect. Jawlines. Muscle mass. Height. These things signal formidability to other males. They signal that this man could win a fight. Women are not evaluating fight-winning potential the same way men are. Women want resources and status and safety. The looksmaxxers are playing an intra-sexual competition game while the real prize is elsewhere. They become more formidable to other men but not more attractive to women. They cannot figure out why their new jawline did not get her to stay.

18. The sex recession started before COVID. Smartphones killed more relationships than any virus ever could.

COVID gets blamed for everything, but the sex recession was well underway before lockdowns. Smartphones are the culprit. They sit on nightstands during dates. They buzz during conversations. They offer infinite distraction from the person in front of you. Couples scroll instead of talk. Singles swipe instead of approach. The phone is always more interesting than the stranger because the phone never rejects you. The phone is curated. The phone is safe. The phone is killing the ability to connect with real humans in real time. By the time COVID hit, the damage was already done. The virus just finished what the smartphone started. People who could not connect before certainly could not connect during isolation. The recession continues. The phones remain. Nothing changes.

19. Single mothers by choice are rising. The child does not miss the father it never had. But the mother carries the weight alone and calls it empowerment.

Women are increasingly choosing to have children without partners. They use sperm donors. They raise kids alone. They call it empowerment. The child does not miss what it never had. A boy raised without a father does not know what he is missing. But he will grow up without a male role model. He will learn masculinity from media and peers. He will struggle to regulate aggression. He will have higher rates of behavioral problems. The mother carries all of this alone. She works. She parents. She handles discipline and finances and emotional support with no backup. She tells herself she is strong. She is. But strength is not the same as thriving. The child will never say he wishes he had a father because he does not know what a father is. But he will be different. And the mother will wonder, late at night when no one is watching, if she made the right choice.

20. Four out of five women who end up childless did not intend to. The narrative focuses on the ten percent who chose this path. The grieving majority is invisible.

The public conversation about childlessness focuses on women who choose not to have children. They are celebrated. They are featured in magazine profiles. They are held up as examples of liberation. They are ten percent of childless women. The other eighty percent did not choose this. They wanted children. They tried. They waited for the right partner who never came. They had fertility issues they could not afford to treat. They miscarried until they ran out of time. They are invisible. They grieve in private. They attend support groups with other women who also did not intend to be childless. No one writes profiles about them. No one celebrates their sacrifice. They are the collateral damage of a culture that told them they could wait, that fertility was optional, that biology was negotiable. They are the proof that the narrative was wrong. And no one wants to look at them.

21. Monogamy works for the man who could have other women but chooses not to. It is a prison for the man who stays because he has no options. She knows the difference.

A man with options who chooses one woman is a prize. His commitment means something because he could be elsewhere. His woman knows this. It keeps her grateful. It keeps her engaged. It keeps her from taking him for granted. A man with no options who stays with one woman is not choosing her. He is accepting her. There is no prize in being accepted. His woman knows this too. She knows he stays because he cannot leave. She knows he has nowhere else to go. This knowledge erodes her respect. She becomes complacent. She becomes dismissive. She becomes the one who might leave because he has proven he cannot. The same arrangement—one man, one woman—produces completely different dynamics depending on whether the man has options. Monogamy is not the variable. Abundance is.

22. Men want to fuck. When this drive is met with screens instead of skin, they stop building, stop striving, stop becoming. A sedated man does not revolt. He also does not reproduce.

The male drive to reproduce is the engine of civilization. It makes men build companies, write books, paint cathedrals, explore continents. It makes them compete, achieve, become. When that drive is met with a screen and a hand, the engine idles. There is no need to build when the reward comes free. There is no need to strive when orgasm is a click away. The man becomes sedated. He does not revolt because revolt requires energy and he has none. He does not reproduce because reproduction requires a woman and he has a screen. He sits. He watches. He faps. He fades. The civilization he did not build crumbles around him. He does not notice because he is looking at his phone. The drive that built everything is being redirected into nothing. And nothing is what remains.