Why Owning Porn While In A Relationship With Women Is A Positive Thing, Not Negative
I believe that it's really become a ridiculous craze to shame Men or whereby if Men feel guilty for owning porn, especially if their girlfriends or wives happen to come across their Porn "Stash" or collections on their Computer.
They'll begin asking you questions about something or how many times you've done it or if something is safe, etc and become really curious. If they don't, then that's a warning flag about her.
I will tell you first-hand that Porn, is a really great indicator as to how attracted, invested or actually interest in you as a person that your girlfriend is.
Every single girl I had been involved with, sooner or later became aware of my own personal Porn collection, and while I will say that all of them did get upset to some degree or another, the thing is, more often than not, a lot of them being upset was either an act or combination of their insecurities having surfaced, more than the fact that I own the Porn or even watch it.
This is because they are curious why I like it, and often times if there was an argument later about it, it usually stems up on them having to decide whether or not they are willing to fulfill scenarios shown in the porn, and not being "less desired" than the Women shown in the porn.
A lot of times after these fights, it would involve them insisting on them wanting to watch it with you or to see what you are into, and if that ends up being what happens, it is an excellent sign.
They'll begin asking you questions about something or how many times you've done it or if something is safe, etc and become really curious. If they don't, then that's a warning flag about her.
If the girl does not do that or if she dumps you from your Porn Collection, it means she was worthless anyways, and not really all that into you.
Every girl I ended up being with knew about my collection, but it was actually my first girlfriend who had the most major problem with it, and pulled a huge attitude throughout our relationship about it, and while I had hoped to try to use it towards our advantage, it just got worse and worse, and she had all kinds of insecurity issues. She began to become more "robotic" and distant in the sheets, and then eventually insisted how she wanted to see other people instead. She also was a major loser and she started smoking marijuana after that and getting tattoos and dating pathetic Men.
Make no mistake that Women watch PLENTY of porn themselves, so much so, that one girl a long time ago who insisted on meeting me, she was not attractive, but when she drove us back to her place she insisted on us Watching an Adult movie together.
And believe it or not, I was very naive at the time and it didn't occur to me until later in the film that she was actually using it as a means to try to "get me in the mood" with her, even though I was not attracted to her at all.
It began becoming very obvious at one point because I hadn't made a move on her yet, and she began fretting and sighing and having this "attitude" but I think she understood I wasn't really interested her in that way, and so it made for an awkward moment.
But anyway, the point here being that Women watch just as much porn as Men do, in fact, even more of it but expect to shame Men for watching porn, when in fact Men ought to be indifferent if your Woman finds out about your stash.
If she is a decent one - which really don't exist anymore - she will want to watch it with you and learn what scenes you like and with the idea in mind to play out those sort of scenes, so long as it's something "reasonable".
Always remember that a "Secure Woman" does not feel threatened by a Man's Porn collection, if she knows well in herself that she has any kind of value and skills enough in order to keep her Man from straying, and won't take offense or really be all that put-off by a Man having porn. All Men do, without exception.
Also keep in mind that Porn does not rewire the brain or cause impotence or any other nonsense about damage or other problems from having it as a habit. These are Old Wives Tales they used to shame and discipline Men by making them feel guilty.
So the point is you should know that you can feel 100% guilt-free about your collection, and that in fact, you should actually also see your Porn Collection as a "Reference" source for things that you like, especially if it's Amateur Porn or involves special Fantasy Scenes or a Theme involved with it that is artistic or unique in a way because it makes a great discussion point for couples, and if the Man wants to instill a new idea or point of view about something in their relationship.
Amateur Porn is not only superior to any other kind, because it's All-Natural (most of the time), but depicts scenarios which are real rather than staged or framed which are artificial, therefore one cannot really say that it's not "reality" and so forth. In Amateur porn for example, even the orgasms are usually real unless the content maker makes too much of it and it's repetitive and obviously faked, unlike how Mainstream Porn is purposely all faked.
So if you ever had concerns about "purging" your porn collection from your computer or shelves, don't even bother worrying about it and look at using it instead for a purpose if you are with someone or getting with someone who likely will find out.
It will either make or break your relationship, and depending on what course it takes, that will tell you how much of a person they are who was into you or not.
As a Man, you can even use your Porn collection to weaponize it against your girlfriend if she shames or leaves you based on you having it, because you can always enforce the notion that ALL Men have a porn collection, and that she really must not be all that into you if all it took is some pre-recorded material, and that she is selfish because she possesses no interest to try to appeal to you or carry out the fantasies shown in the material "for you".
What do you think about the idea of men getting castration / a form of neuronal-hormonal intervention that removes sexuality from terminal consciousness? One the one hand, one is free from these feelings and needs. On the other hand, one’s mind may be changed in non-sexual areas.
ReplyDelete@Eike, NO definitely not, it would come with way too many consequences... A vasectomy would be preferable, and even a vasectomy CAN come with long-term consequences that affect T levels and even limit pleasure.
DeleteCan masturbating too much or too hard and fast cause erectile dysfunction? I read somewhere that it can damage the muscle fibres if done that way. However it could also just be propaganda.
ReplyDeleteAlso why do women watch more porn than men if they don’t have a high sex drive and aren’t interested in sex?
@Kyle,
DeleteNope, definitely not, if anything the more one does it, the less likely they will suffer from ED. It's the Men who engage in "NoFap" and go for long stretches that get the ED, especially later in life if not by mid-life.
It's 100% Nonsense Propaganda that even if someone gets off multiple times every day for years and years and years that they will ever run into problems.
That person if anything will be far healthier and running on all cylinders compared to these weak Men who prefer "retaining" for their invisible "God".
Women don't typically have higher sex drives than Men do, but there are variations with "some" now and then. What's telling is the type of Porn Women watch, because Women are attracted to violent sex scenes and gang-rape. The majority of them get off more from the "idea" of something than the act itself which is why they watch it so much.
As a rule, only Visual Women can have exceedingly high sex drives naturally.
The rest probably are using drugs to achieve it.
@PSA is it a good idea to go a few days without masturbating before having sex with a woman? I’ve noticed when I do this I am more into it because I can imagine hornier to release. What is it with these month long “NoFap” streaks that ruin mens sex life? I can imagine sex lasting a few seconds if its been that long without anything.
DeleteIs the whole desensitisation thing a myth too? as the grip of a hand is a lot different to a vagina.
Any signs on how to identify a visual woman? What even makes a woman visual in the first place compared to their boring asexual women counterparts?
@Kyle, Nah, it's better that it occurs everyday at least once unless you are with the girl doing it every day.
DeleteAlso, don't quote me exactly, but you can read up even online about evidence relating to this, but for a Man to have optimal health in general and especially as far as everything part of his reproductive region, he needs to release at least like something around 23 days of the month minimum.
This is also becoming more accepted even in Mainstream Medicine among many Researchers and Scientific Experts on the topic.
In the future, you are going to witness MASSES of Men who will develop Prostate Cancer and suffer from Incontinence and a weakened Pelvic Floor from practicing Semen Retention. One of the most silliest Ideas of a practice some boneheads came up with and thought is a "win" in life.
@Kyle, If a Man goes one month without any release, especially the younger he is, it's not a "problem" as such, the issue is more with a cumulative effect of avoiding it, especially going into long stretches, year after year, especially once he gets into his later years. He will have severe problems by the time he reaches his 50's if not a bit earlier.
DeleteOf course if you go for a stretch and do nothing for a few days you will maybe have more desire for it with a Woman, but also the risks for premature ejaculation (and getting a girl pregnant) exist, because the muscles can atrophy that quickly. Just something to keep in mind.
Visual Women basically think and respond to the same things Men do, that's really the simplest way I can put it. Visual Women identify with everything the way a Man does, but only as a "Woman" instead. They understand technicalities and pay attention to details and only like to have sex with Men they are physically and sexually attracted too.
What makes a Woman visual!? It comes from their genetic pools. Fewer genetic pools have the traits of Women being visual getting carried down. Visual Women have sex FOR PLEASURE. Not for ego validation or attention or to feel better about themselves, or to control a Man. Not that they "AREN'T" capable of doing those things too, but the difference is that Visual Women really enjoy sex, for the same reasons Men do.
Yes, desensitization is a myth. As with anything in life, if you drive a better car, drink better whiskey, eat better quality meat or whatever it is you do, try going back to the "vanilla" or run of the mill of something, and you won't be able to tolerate it anymore. It's the same when it comes to boring Women who aren't fun in the sack.
@PSA I used to see a woman who used me for money however she also initiated sex a lot. Meanwhile another woman went 50/50 on things and had low self esteem, but she never initiated sex yet was always down to if I wanted to. What woman would you say was the more visual one?
Delete@Kyle,
DeleteIt depends, the thing is some Women who tend to initiate sex a lot, do so as a form of control over Men.
But if the sex was really good and if she was very passionate in the bed and knew how to get you off properly, there's a much higher chance she might have been visual.
As I approach 60, I am so dam happy that I went to college in the early 1990s, and got some of that good action from my college peers. I never spent a penny, and had them when we were both in our late late teens, and early 20s. I actually passed on so many of these women, because I was Catholic at the time, and really thought it was better to wait until marriage. Regardless, it was fun because we didn't have all the social media distractions, and it was so dam EASY to hook up. I mean, I could just go to a Keg party and talk to a chick for about an hour or sometimes less, and then I would just walk her back to my place for some fun. It was innocent fun. It was cool. Women were OK back then for the most part. Granted, I had no clue about their inferior DNA and lack of honor and everything back then. They just seemed fun to me back then.
DeleteAnd fast forward to today, and they are just full blown demons. I do think that women in the late late teen (18-22) and early 20s are probably still going to be fun, as they are not as corrupted yet...but it doesn't take long for them to get corrupted and start acting like money grubbing assholes.
Younger men just have to walk on egg shells these days, thanks to feminism, and "me too movement"...and just the way women are LOST souls. It is not fun anymore, in my opinion, as I observe these men.
Even the whores are bad these days!
I can't find a good one, ANYWHERE. Most are drug addicts on the East Coast. In LA, they are easy to find, but their prices went from about $40 for a BJ to about $100. Just no value anymore.
And massage parlors are the same. No Value.
No thanks. A hot shower does the trick. And saves me money. Occasionally, I will take the plunge if I want a few bucks from my investments or gambling. But, no way will I spend "good" money on a woman anymore.
The value is just not there.
@Joey Aragon,
DeleteThat's awesome! Be very thankful because few others than us these days have gotten to really experience the days when things were better and still exciting. And it's funny you mention the Keg parties because I always think back to these days too, and I had another conversation with a guy lately about this fact who remarked one day to me when I saw him about how he misses the days of when people were into Keg Parties, and how basically everywhere there are cameras outside and in the woods, whereas back in the day people held keg parties in the woods. Nowadays, younger generations want to smoke Marijuana and abandoned alcohol, mostly!
It used to be more fun when Alcohol was big and Marijuana wasn't. This dynamic seems to have changed everything, and Marijuana users just become utter assholes from using that drug.
DRINKING is a far more social substance than Marijuana. Marijuana makes people dumb losers. While alcohol could do the same, you have to really become a chronic Alcoholic for that. As a rule, I HATE JUNKIES.
I have heard and seen in recent years that Prostitutes are indeed becoming more picky because of how just much in high demand they are!
Overall I'd say value in general for any life experience, things and what to have in your life, sadly has rapidly decreased, especially in the last 2 decades. Before that, there was still so much value in anything, including other People, Home Ownership, Food, Travel and Vacations, Music, Concerts, Experiences in general.
Unreal how much times have changed, and again it goes back to my stance how pretty much everything in this world is "gone". Look at how difficult it is to even "relive" any of those past experiences we have. Even a Keg Party! Good luck even finding one, and even if YOU DO, I guarantee you that most who'd attend these days are total douches, when it used to be carefree, wild fun back in the day. People just aren't "fun" anymore.
Their idea of fun is being a parasite and an asshole by just using others and being "worshipped" by others for doing it and then posting it on "Instagram".
Porn is still a Jew Mind Trick.
ReplyDeleteIt's fun to watch from time to time...but as you age, you can see the stupidity of it all.
I hate the double standards. A woman can have a vibrator with a 6.7 Powerstroke Diesel engine, no one bats an eye, but a man watching porn “Gross and disgusting! Get help!”
ReplyDelete@Saint,
DeleteIf you notice, basically anything a Man does that he wants to do for pleasure or recreation, IT'S A PROBLEM for Women, Governments and Society. Including other Men who will shame him. In addition to all of the above:
Want some Caramel or Flavor in your Latte? He must be gay...
Spend a lot of money on yourself!? You're an Entitled, privileged Jerk.
Wears Leather!? He's gay
Drinks Fruity Alcoholic Drinks? He's gay
Sooner or Later, a Man finds out that this whole system on what Masculinity is defined as, is COMPLETELY about a Man being a slave, and always working and behind used as the Community Punching Bag.
It's Men who are always expected to "take one for the team" and "step up".
But the problem is that the Men who step up are always the loser in the long run.
Even George Patton recognized in the scope of Warfare, as much of the fact that he was a douchebag, he understood that only a Loser dies for his own Nation and that the whole point in warfare is to get your opponent to die for his Nation instead.
It's pretty much become a taboo subject for a Man to enjoy his life by any means and not be in perpetual servitude to Women and the Government.
Wow I did not know Patton had that attitude about war.
DeleteThere seems to be a lot of spiritual ankle-bitting when you want to relax. Even when im home doing nothing there’s always a gnawing feeling of having to do something. What about you? What’s your attitude about doing chores and tasks around home. I’m sure you got it all on lock.
@Saint, Yes, actually the thing is War has a lot of fundamental rules and attributes to it that few are really privy too, even in modern times. George Patton was much of a Maverick even compared to many other American Generals and Military figures, probably the most controversial. That being said, another unorthodox figure about everything relating to warfare is Sun Tzu. I have always identified with Sun Tzu's writings, and believed much of what he did when it came to War, even long before ever studying him as a figure.
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