How I Escaped The Trap Of Marriage

It's not really by some miracle or "luck", as some might want to think that I did not fall for the trap or marriage, I'm sure every man has their own story, and therefore I of course have my own.

For starters, on an Intuitive Level, I sensed something from a very early age that seemed bizarre about all Married Women I encountered, most of them anyway, but especially when I saw Boomer Marriages form.

Something never seemed right about these Marriages, and often times I would notice that the Wives of so many Men seemed to be awfully reckless, even going above and beyond to flirt with other Men on the side or when their Husband wasn't looking, but I often noticed how controlling they also were of their husbands, especially in everything that came down to financial matters.

However, from the early start in life, I was always an "off-the-grid" type of guy, and I preferred not doing things by the books on any level, I preferred taking the path that hasn't been beaten down with everything in life because I found the mainstream path to be leaving much to desire.

Early on, I knew it was not for me. Along with having children.

To me, being born into this world, Marriage, even the whole process of it, seemed like a foreign or strange concept for me that did not come natural to my being, because it did not make sense to me even on a primal level, and then the whole aspect of all the rituals or religious aspects about it and the involvement with the government, it all seemed too overwhelming and confusing for me, and not something that I needed.

Whether it was buying a diamond ring for someone, or getting down on one's knees, or asking / notifying a Father for his Daughter's hand in marriage, all of these things seemed very cringey and emasculating for me as a Man.

Not only that, but from having attended weddings within the family and of friends throughout the years, I picked up on the fact really early that weddings really are like attending a "play".

That is how I felt when I attended weddings, as if they were not real, and that everything was staged, and people were just playing a certain role because that's just "what you do", and there are all these weird traditions or things that I would not be getting involved with.

For example, I am an extremely possessive type as well, and there's no chance in hell I'm going to go to have a marriage ceremony and then later everyone gets to dance with my "Bride" including other Men.

No chance in hell!

A lot of the other things that also occurred during weddings, would have to put me in a forced situation to act or perform in a way that isn't native to my personality, and as I am a very bad actor with things, I would end up becoming angry and enraged if I had to put on these glib smiles and remarks around others along with all the other distractions of a wedding ceremony.

Early on, I noticed weddings were always very status-oriented, and as I later had learned in life, this is actually how it was historically. Weddings, Getting Married, was strictly relegated to Royals and Elites, not for the peasants.

Only in modern times, have peasants been included in on it, but the fact is also that people rarely marry the person they Love, or do not Marry for Love.

Marriage is for Financial Security and Securing one's bloodline, only, both by the means of marrying stable blood and for the purpose of likely having children and a family.

Marriage had always seemed like something very out of touch for me, it's like trying to have a Metalhead go to a Hip-Hop concert and expecting him to "get on" with everyone there including the Music.

The whole process for Marriage seemed very tedious, very stressful, and almost mechanical and as if it would also be completely pointless, along with being a large expense.

Also, I would often notice at an early age that most Married Couples, rarely knew about the other person they were married with even through MANY years of marriage, and that much of their willingness to tolerate each other, always boiled down to religious values, and they would always talk behind each other's back, or sometimes stabbingly in front of each other by mockery or making jokes about how they have to "put up" with certain behaviors or habits of their spouse, and it just drew this overall sense in me that these people decided to marry on the basis of some agreement and compromises and adhered to certain rules because they are expected to do that for a stable marriage and family.

So I never had the urge to get married, or ever have children. I completely shied away from both notions, and I believed that a "real marriage" in a sense, or in essence, is decided by two people on a mutual basis. Not by the State or the Church.

One girl in my life, made a marriage proposal to me, and I believe she did so either by knowing something about me somehow that I never would be the type to get down on my knees or beg the question, so she ended up being the one who bought me an Engagement ring and made a Proposal to me, which sort of seemed out of place with how it all happened as well, because the girl had some serious "issues" with expression in general. Nevertheless, she bought me a very ugly engagement ring.

This was after 1 year of being in a relationship, for a wedding that would anyways never come to be.

The thing is, I am the type of person who lives so detached and outside of Mainstream reality of the Matrix we live in, that I wouldn't even know the first steps to planning for a wedding or who to talk to or any of those things, it's all a confusing overwhelming mess for me, and I'm already disinterested by that fact alone.

Even just a trip to some City Hall to pay a fee and get a marriage certificate is also too much work for me, and I find it not only pointless but arduous and a complete nuisance to have the "State" involved in Romantic Affairs.

Out of all of my "International Pursuits" with Women, one of them here in the USA and one of them in Europe tried to use a trapping method for "marriage" for me. The one in Europe tried to play a trick on me and then making it seem as if it's too tough for her to come visit the USA when she just never put in any effort towards getting a VISA, and she made up QUITE the stories to weasel her way out of that, but to suggest to me that the "best thing would be for us to get married".

What probably made things more terrifying for that girl, is I never said Yes or No, even though the answer would be No, I shrugged the question off and just ignored it when it was brought up, and just kept insisting it was her turn to come visit me in America. She was shocked that I did not take up the offer to get married, because even as a German-American, apparently "American" Men have the reputation since they are such "SIMPS", they are usually EAGER to marry any foreign girl especially, so she began acting very weird and started going insane after she saw in me that there was no inclination for marriage. She thought she landed a big bank account from America that she secured for life!

The other girl, I can't remember how it happened, but while we both agreed we did not want children, she DID want marriage, and she even told me point blank how she did not even care about ceremonies but all that would matter would be the "piece of paper". In fact, she tried using those things as leverage and suggested that we wouldn't have any "plans" for anything we do and that she would not discuss any future plans with me until we went down to City Hall and got that paperwork done.

I told her I don't believe in Legal Marriage, and even argued how this shows she's all about money, and needless to say, it ended up being 1/2 of the reason we broke things off.

Marriage just seems utterly pointless and expensive, and it turns out all my instincts toward seeing how other marriages operated, they weren't what I envisioned in having a lifetime relationship with someone, not at all.

So this is likely how I never fell into the trap of getting married, while so many other Men have, without realizing some hardcore truths about Marriage, particularly Feminism and how the Court systems work as they seek to fleece a Man for everything he's got.

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  1. "Marrying means to halve one's rights and double one's duties"

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    2. Arthur Schopenhauer quote up there.

      Thanks for sharing your story PSA. Seems like you simply trusted your instincts about marriage. Good for you.

      That was the best decision I ever made...to not marry. Having children too. I won there. as well. These decisions have allowed me so much freedom to do as I wish. And, I know my life is better because of this. Married men with children are defeated sacks of shit. They have lost their way and their identity, as they slave on for their families.

      If the government wasn't a bunch of pieces of shit...and empowered women to take our jobs, and our dignity...through advantageous divorce and reproductive right laws for women....then I would have had many children. But, that is not the case. I live in reality, and I know this would have lead to my imprisonment or worse....

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    3. PSA, I agree with the silly rituals as well....

      I mean, there was no way in hell I was ever going to knell down for a dumb cunt and ask her to marry me.

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  2. This is a very interesting perspective to read.

    Now that you explain it ..... I better understand where ur coming from.

    Also it is not logical if the quality of women and relationships is going down,
    then why are men being expected to lay down all control to her- legally and cerimoniously.... no wonder if you're intune with your instincts you got off put by this.

    I never got the big hype around weddings either. It seems very uncomfortable and an obstacle o get across. Some traditions like 'finding the garter' and even having my family watch me 'kss' in front of them is so offputting. I would not be enjoying it at all.

    Also you're expected to spend tons of money on pleasing and entertaining your guests, and photos. I've also heard guests complain about how borrringgg the wedding was.

    Tons of women grow up obsessed with their wedding apparently. I know women who have everything about their wedding planned out before they even have a partner. And I saw this tiktok comment of a women saying that she gets so sad seeing 'real' weddings, because her wedding wasn't 'special enough'. It's like they care more about the wedding than the guy or the relationship

    So glad I found people who understand how it's a trap and how superficial it is, it's really helped me see

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  3. Italians are the least likely NPC...because we are respectful and emotional, and love to talk shit behind people's back when they are wrong. :))).

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  4. "For example, I am an extremely possessive type as well, and there's no chance in hell I'm going to go to have a marriage ceremony and then later everyone gets to dance with my "Bride" including other Men."

    Lol, a long time ago I went to a dance class and there were more men than women; so the dance instructor said that the girls should rotate dancing with the guys so that all guys get a chance to dance with someone. All the women came by themselves, except one girl that came with another guy; I don't know if he was her boyfriend or just an acquaintance, but she was the prettiest girl there by far. And because the guy didn't say to the instructor 'this girl is with me and will only dance with me', she also ended up dancing with other dudes.

    It was such a cucked situation, he went to a dance class with a pretty girl (the prettiest in the class); and because he didn't speak up, she ended up dancing with a bunch of random dudes instead....

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    1. Interesting, because if the girl is really interested in him, she wouldn't let go of him. Some women instinctively know this, the guy was weak, true, but here too the attraction fails. At least that's how I see it.

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